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I am in contact with the world of migrants in France since the year 2000…in Paris…especially with those who have been waiting illegally for 10 years before hoping for a residence permit. Since 2012, I am in Lyon with those seeking asylum. They are better protected because they have an official document allowing them to stay while waiting for an answer from the authorities, which can take a long time. All these foreigners come without any preparation for what they are going to experience here. They are often weakened by their journey and they are completely disorientated because they have not found straightaway the country of their dreams…food, how to greet, ways of dressing… everything is new for many of them except for the small number who have managed to return after being expelled.

For us who live in religious communities – especially if one is a confrere from another continent, he has had many years to prepare for international life, moreover he will have no difficulty to find a bed and a welcome in our big houses, with confreres ready and able to help him with any problems. That is why, he should be fluent  (like those who go to Africa or elsewhere) in the local language, to be able to adapt to the local customs of the moment that are not against or too far away from his way of witnessing the message of Jesus. As a priest in Tanzania,

I never wore shorts which were, at the time I was there, only worn by boys in primary school. They were never worn by an adult. As far as

I could, I always ate the local food, but, of course, from time to time;

I enjoyed a good meal prepared by a confrere from another culinary culture. However, I never took a tin of anything into the villages in order to eat by myself in a corner as I have seen other European confreres do. It is up to us to show that no matter where, any person with a bit of an effort can live and integrate into another culture other than his own while still keeping his personality and involving others in all the wealth of the country from which he comes.

“I believe that from the moment when one stops saying, ‘in my country, we do things this way,’ we can establish a relationship and discover the riches of a people” (Sister Amanda, from Colombia) (La Vie 03/08/2017)

“The arrival of so many sisters and brothers in the faith, offers

the churches in Europe an opportunity to fully achieve its universality…the migrants have the duty to get to know, to respect, to assimilate, the culture as well as the traditions of the nation which is welcoming them.” (Pope Francis on the 28/10/2017 at the Congress in Rome on ‘Rethinking Europe’).

We have had emigrants who left by cutting all the bridges with their past…one talks nowadays of migrants who are in constant contact with their kin in the home country and who sometimes return to the country of their ancestors.

It is true that Jesus did a lot of healing but he did not come on earth to start a group of healers or makers of magic potions. There were already too many of them around at the time and they were very successful (Lk 11. 19). If Jesus healed the sick, it was to proclaim a Kingdom, a new community close to people and especially to those who were the most destitute and often rejected by the religious world. Jesus often refused to let people speak about his healing miracles or that he did extraordinary things (Mt 12, 38 – 42), which is often the case of those who practice these gifts so that they might be spoken about. Many of these types of people are false messiahs, whereas when the crowds wanted to make Jesus a king, he withdrew all alone to the surrounding mountains. For Jesus, the most important miracle was the “bread of life” (Jn 6, 58) and in verse 66 we read that many abandoned him. Let us ask ourselves therefore, what can I do when I am in the presence of sick people, those who are starving and excluded from society? Speaking personally, I do not pray for rain (those who act as rainmakers often observe nature closely such as hyperactivity in a termite mound, a sure sign of approaching rain). I encourage people to prepare their fields when the time for the rainy season is approaching rather than hanging around the bars. I also encourage them  to plant vegetables (peas, lentils, beans, etc.) that enrich the soil, to reforest and not to plant only maize (when I bless seeds, I always make sure that people have also included some cassava plants as they are very drought resistant). When I am called to the home of a sick Christian, no matter what kind of illness even mental ones they are suffering from, I believe that they are loved, and that I have to listen to them. I administer the sacrament of the sick surrounded by the family and community of the sick person and I invite all those present, not only me, to place their hands on the head of the sick person because he will feel better and I do not want to pass myself off as a miracle worker. This means that each one present can ask him or herself, what sort of gifts have I received and how am I going to use them to be close to everyone in my community and in my neighbourhood when “the Padri” is not there?

Extract from a letter written in Swahili to the Christians of Iboja in 1998

For some time now, I belong to the category of ‘Seniors’ so I am taking the risk of expressing some thoughts that I hope will have a wider application beyond what I can say about the only retirement home that I know (Maison Lavigerie’ at Pau-Billère).

Among the group of seniors there are two principal groups: those who accept on one level that they are ‘old’ and those who do not accept it at all at all. There is a third group that I will talk about later on.

Let us begin with those who recognise that they are ‘old’: In French, it is more elegant to say ‘senior’ because in Africa it is an honour to be old and in general, society recognises us for our wisdom and respects us. However, in Europe, the word is more a sign of decrepitude and we, Europeans, feel that very much. Even if we avoid recognising this condition; illness and tiredness remind us! Certainly, some people do accept to becoming old; we have had our time of full vitality and now it is the time to slow down but life continues towards its normal end as for every living creature. This risks adopting a passive attitude, letting go without accepting our situation.

As a member of an institute of common life (Missionaries of Africa), the ideal would be to prolong as far as possible the possibility of living a fraternal life in the time that is left to us. This is possible as long as there is a sufficient number of confreres to take care of those who are more handicapped. This is done in a number of feminine congregations especially those, that have a sufficient number of nurses among their members.

However for us missionaries who do not have many houses in Europe, this is not possible. The practical solution (at least in France) was to seek help from an EHPAD which is basically a medical organisation that looks after dependent elderly people. In fact, it’s a hospital and the main aim is to provide appropriate medical care. The official organization of this system relieves the heads of the institute (Provincials), both financially and in terms of the practical organization of the house: depending on the degree of dependence of the “residents.” In fact the house could have as many carers as there are residents. Even if these carers from the doctor and the lay director down to the cleaner are kind towards the old missionaries, on the whole it does not constitute a community and we are very far from the ideal that we hoped to find at the end of our lives.

These reflections need to be developed further regarding structures and people.

Structures: when a congregation asks an EHPAD to take over, the aim is not only to be rid of the burden of the material organisation of the house (medical care, financial administration…); it should also assure a real accompaniment on the level of spiritual life without being in competition with the direction of the hospital. This double direction is sometimes difficult to work out because the interests are often contrary.

Regarding help to people some more reflection needs to be done. I have not participated at a session for the 4th age but having seen what has happened in many other congregations, I would like to point out a few things.

In our missionary life (it is the same thing for active religious) there are personal events which force us to look at things squarely; it can be the weakening of our bodies, the result of a medical test, or a warning sign as a result of a remark made by a confrere. Even if this surprises us, we should not deceive ourselves: “I am going through a difficult time, I am getting weaker.” This is where I am whether I like it or not! It is up to me to face up to the situation.

Some people find difficulty in accepting this state of affairs. It is the 3rd group of which I have referred to above. They hang on to what they have done (in the past) and often that is justified. They are proud of their achievements. However that leads them to lie to themselves and to others. They do not accept any suggestion that they give up driving because they are becoming a public danger, they refuse to accept that their accounts are getting mixed up after having faithfully looked after them for 50 years as bursar, they refuse to accept that now they sing badly after having spent many years as choirmaster. It is not necessarily pride but incapacity to take into account their actual situation and they still believe and want to be useful as in the past.

Whatever group we belong to (still active, really diminished, or diminished without knowing it) we are called to look at Jesus. In the perspective of our life in Christ, this last stage makes us realise that Jesus did not experience old age. However, he comes to live in us: let us allow him to live with so many men and women through us. Like Him, we can show solidarity with all those who are experiencing this moment of the diminution and the aging process. We have a unique opportunity to share our life with Christ, with the poor, with the diminished. We need to prepare ourselves to enter into this perspective.

Teilhard de Chardin saw in suffering, Jesus approaching:

“In all those dark moments, O God, grant that I may understand that it is you (provided only my faith is strong enough) who are painfully parting the fibres of my being in order to penetrate to the very marrow of my substance and bear me away within yourself”.

And Teilhard concludes:

“It is not enough that I should die while communicating. Teach me to treat my death as an act of communion.”   

Can this be our perspective, without cheating!

You will find below the complete extract from Le Milieu Divin under the heading “Communion through diminishment.”

This article offers information about the team of lay people at the service of elderly confreres in St. Charles, Heythuysen. The team is composed of three ladies: One coordinator, Jose Hendriks, and two contact-persons Annie Keijsers and Marian Timmermans.

From left to right: Annie Keijsers, Jose Hendriks, Marian Timmermans

It is a pleasure for me to describe my experiences in my function as Coordinator of the White Fathers community in St. Charles.

The care for the material interests of the community and the spiritual and physical well-being of the confreres are at the core of our job. First and foremost comes our personal contact with the Missionaries of Africa in Heythuysen. We are also responsible for the external contacts such as with the local GP, the Local Council, the relatives, or the Land van Horne Institution which provides the overall care and from which we rent the flats.

In order to fulfil, as best as possible, the above mentioned core tasks, it was important in the beginning, that we got to know the White Fathers as such, their needs and wishes with regard to community life for instance. We therefore thought it of great importance to create an atmosphere in which the community could flourish, and which responds to their needs.

Their confidence in us had to grow; this happened in a natural way by our readiness to be of assistance to them.

The Situation

The Dutch Sector has only one community; it is St. Charles in Heythuysen. 36 White Fathers live in this community. Their average age is 82.8 years.

St. Charles is a complex of 79 flats with in-house care facilities, of which the White Fathers rent 36.The Land van Horne Institution owns the building and provides the overall care.

Each confrere lives in his own flat. We try to let them live as independently for as long as possible with appropriate help.

The meals are taken together in the restaurant. In this restaurant, a section is reserved for the confreres. Three times a day they meet to enjoy their meals together. In the course of the morning and afternoon they can have a coffee/tea break together; it is their meeting-place.

Each day there is the Eucharist at 9.30 in the morning and vespers at 17.00 hours. Adoration takes place every Sunday.

To receive confreres living outside the community or who are still in Africa, we are renting three guest-rooms. These are at our disposal for the whole year, and are frequently used; not only by confreres but also by relatives and friends of the WFs.

The front of the house at Heythuysen as it was a few years ago

Care and Help

The Coordination team arranges transport for the sick, makes medical appointments, organises outings, maintenance of the house, contacts with relatives and discusses any issues with the care-providers, and the domestic staff. The coordinator and contact-persons are informed about appointments with the local GPs and specialists and if needs be, one of them accompanies the confrere to his appointment. The Team also makes requests for more skilled care and for all sorts of supporting equipment. Some confreres are able to drive themselves to appointments or are driven by a volunteer. However, we do notice that confreres are getting older and less mobile.  We have to watch out that they will not overtax themselves, as they all are getting on in age.

All the confreres in St. Charles receive domestic help to clean their flat. For most of them, the expenses are reimbursed by the Local Council. We have to apply for them to be registered and the Land van Horne Institute will provide the personnel if the application is granted.

Regarding personal care, a number of confreres are totally autonomous and do not need help. For those who do need help, we can apply for help and again the Institute will provide the personnel if the help is granted. For this too, we have to pay a contribution, the rest is paid by the health insurance or the government. It is one of our tasks to keep the registrations up to date, or when more care is needed to ensure that the appropriate measures are provided.

Self-sufficiency is promoted by the government. Health-care in the Netherlands has become too expensive, and is becoming more so every year. One is expected to live independently at home for as long as possible, and that’s why people is starting to take better care of their health, with good diets and supplements from sites as reportshealthcare.com. Still people are growing older and needing more care and attention, and Government subsidies are getting less.

The confreres help one another but due to their age, this is getting harder and more demanding. This means that we feel a great responsibility towards the community especially in these times when people are needed who will notice what is required, and who will take the necessary steps.

The jubilarians at Heythuysen on the 29th June 2017

Our Experience

Now, after having worked here for 8 years, I can say that we, Annie, Marian and I, have got a good bond with the White Fathers. We have become part of the scenery and trusted contact-persons. More and more we are becoming part and parcel of their daily lives in St. Charles. We feel accepted and respected, and confident to continue on the road taken.

This work is giving us a lot of satisfaction, because we are able to be close to people and to be of direct service to our fellowmen; particularly so to this special group of men who have always been at the service of others. We feel it as a privilege to be allowed to do so; we keep learning more every day, and it is enriching our own lives.

“Efforts need to be made to make retirement as active as possible.” (AC.5.3-a)

This wish, expressed in the Capitular Documents, can be an obsession, sometimes painful but always persistent, with all those responsible for our communities of elderly confreres. A long time ago, it was during the 80s, I was a nurse in our retirement house in Tassy for three great years but they were not easy ones. Now and for the last three years, I find myself responsible for our retirement/nursing home at Bry sur Marne. The circumstances of these two periods of service were completely different but I tried to do all that I could so that this aspiration was not just pie in the sky. However, there are certain warning signs that cannot be ignored and I would like to draw attention to them here.

A retirement home is not a novitiate: we cannot consider our elderly confreres as the young people of the future! On the contrary, each confrere has had an extraordinary experience of a life of incalculable riches with a raft of unique personal experiences. Therefore, he cannot be made to fit into a mould, thanks be to God that would stamp out his particular personality. Neither is it a question of locking him into any old system in what we judiciously call “retirement homes.”  Each elderly confrere has spontaneously written, in his own way, a page of the history of the African Church, so he is worthy of admiration, and still more, he deserves to have his freedom respected.

Our retirement home for elderly confreres in Bry-sur-Marne

The disciples of Jesus returned from their mission enthusiastic but tired. As a consequence, Jesus invited them, from the depths of his compassion, and even more from his immense respect for each of them to “come and rest awhile.” Is that not the best possible invitation we can offer to our confreres returning definitively from Africa? Or will they add to their exhaustion by undertaking more years of service in their Province of origin before finally being able to take a little bit of rest? They often do so because, although they are tired, they do not know it yet or hide it for fear of being appointed to a hospice for the dying. However, once they have crossed the threshold of our house, many forget quite quickly all thoughts about the  pastoral work they were going to do before coming in because, suddenly released from all care, the fatigue they had hidden from themselves suddenly overcomes them. Then they appreciate they have much less material cares, they have a lovely room cleaned every day by the staff of the house, suitable food, a well organised spiritual life in the midst of a large and supportive community. Now they can really take it easy because they deserve it.

Community Mass in Bry-sur-Marne

So what does it mean to say “to make retirement as active as possible”? Above all, it means respecting their liberty. There are those who like to read and/or write, there are the web junkies, there are those, if they can still manage it, who like to go out to parishes, others pass their time in front of the TV or in the chapel. Still others like DIY activities, others like games, some like walking, still more visit the sick confreres or those who are dependent. Some old confreres like to frequent exhibitions and there are those who just dream…However all have one thing in common, they listen to themselves grow old, unconsciously they watch the first symptoms of illness, infirmities, dependence…or that things are not getting better and that determines how they spend their time. How do we keep them occupied? By what right can we prevent them from living their “today” in faith and abandonment? What if living, at their age, was simply living in the present as best as possible, each in his own way, while they enjoy community life, which is absolutely essential in their eyes? In that case, the role of the responsible is to respect their liberty and create a suitable climate adapted to helping them fulfil their ongoing missionary vocation. Everything must be done to stimulate a community life of great richness and incredible diversity. There is, of course, the fixed framework of a retirement/nursing home with its particular timetable and that applies here in Bry with its more than 15 lay staff members. There is a concern to keep everybody aware of the ‘outside’ world and to be actively present through encounters, sharing, the recounting of memories (ah yes) and of course through prayer. One can organise any amount of “sessions” (CA, 5.3b) or “twinning” (CA.5.3g) but if their personality is not respected, then their daily life becomes miserable.

We are grateful to our elderly confreres for their constant prayers for the Mission in Africa (CA.5.3c).

A very elderly confrere made this remark to me after reading this passage, “Do they imagine that because we are at the end of our lives, it is easier for us to pray better than when we were younger…”

Certainly, our elderly confreres try to do their best to pray for the Mission in Africa; but we should never forget that they also need our prayers at this crucial period of their earthly life.

Clément Forestier

Some authors argue that our lives have in recent years become longer, safer, happier, more peaceful, more stimulating and more prosperous, not just in the West but worldwide. Certainly, as a Society we can be proud of our concern and continued support of our elderly confreres so that they are able to live happy and fulfilled lives knowing that wherever we are we never stop being the missionaries we were called to be and that we are surrounded with love and care.

   Certainly, when we were young we were able to take on the world and so many other tasks alone, we were almost invincible, and our energy never seemed to waver; that is why maybe we resist the thought of ageing and the very idea that we will not go on forever. The truth is as we grow older we become more acutely aware of the many losses that our age brings, our health, our strength, the people we love, a place within a given community and the status and purpose such a life gave us, although we can still look young with the help of socialist as the Dr. Greg Fedele, we still want more in life. When we were younger it was as if we were dancing through life, despite the trials and the many challenges that we faced in our missionary endeavour. It would be good to remind ourselves of the words of Carl Jung: “the afternoon of human life must have a significance of its own and cannot be merely a pitiful appendage to life’s morning.” Hopefully our older self has more depth and resonance than our youth, however having said that it is our attitude towards our losses that will determine the quality of our senior years. Some would say that we have to mourn our losses, a mourning that is also a liberation, which leads us to discover the ability and joy to embrace life as we have always done but in such a way that it continues to be an intense and varied experience. Our age does not mean that we are out of the game, that we are powerless, or that we cannot influence life in our Society or that that we are unable to witness to the power of the Gospel. We are not to be spectators of our life but immerse ourselves in it – for the time is always now.

What’s more the ageing process offers us fresh opportunities to grow. The elderly, once vibrant and independent, now learn a fresh dependence on others. And the young and energized can find new ways to serve the older generation. Both those who need care and those who offer it can grow in character. As elderly confreres we have something to offer, to our communities, to our Society, and to our friends and family.  Echoing the great American spiritual writer Thomas Merton, I believe that the only real journey in life is the inner journey – not in any way an ego-centric one, but the journey of self-discovery, from the false self to the true self – it is the journey that makes us aware that such changes in our life are not so much losses but the recovery of that which is deepest, most original, most personal in ourselves. Hopefully as we age there will be more wisdom, more freedom, more flexibility, more candour, more self- honesty and the beautiful experience that being born again is not to become somebody else, but to become ourselves.

I end this editorial with a quote from Beyers Naude, the great South African theologian:  

“Every day that I live becomes more meaningful, more fulfilled, and, for me, much more enriching. Time is too short, so I’ve discovered, for all the tremendous revelations of the love of God which he has given to me – new insights, new visions, new possibilities, new dimensions of human living, new relationships with people around me, new depths of concern, and of agony, and of joy which make my life – yes, I can truly say it – so deeply meaningful that I’m eager when I go to bed at night to awake the next morning and to say, ‘It’s a new day, a new life, it’s a new experience of God and of humankind.”  (Beyers Naude)

The confreres of the General Council who visit the communities of our elderly confreres are often impressed by their interest in the mission and in our missionary Society. This reflects the missionary dynamism that continues to support their lives in their retirement.

One of the preoccupations of the last Chapter was exactly that: “Sustaining the missionary dynamism of our sick and elderly confreres while providing them with appropriate care (medical, psychological, and spiritual)” (CA 5.3). Some of those responsible for the communities of our elders have accepted to share briefly the spirit which reigns in our retirement homes.

Growing old and the loss of some mobility is not a reason to let go of one’s ideal or to quit. It is sensible to adopt a strategy adapted to one’s means and to do what one can with what one has. One remains totally a missionary even if sometimes one’s activities are limited to praying for those who are involved directly in pastoral work, those who are preparing for it and those who serve us all. We need our old people.